Oprah Winfrey and Deepak Chopra team up again to offer you this FREE 21-day meditation experience. Today is the first day! I have taken all of their other 21-day meditation courses. I highly encourage you to take it. Click on the link to get started: https://chopracentermeditation.com/
So… how many likes/views/comments did your post/video get? Who won the gold in the Olympics? Which team is the best in football/baseball/hockey? Who won the photo contest? Who is the most beautiful, talented woman in the world? I wonder what would happen if we took away all the needless competition? I believe in striving for excellence and doing the best we can, but we go to extremes for attention and approval from others. We should appreciate and take advantage of the unique, individual talents we possess, but why do we have to prove them to the world? When we do get the most votes and win a contest, are we any happier? It seems that our egos still need fed, and the bigger the ego, the more attention it demands. Can we ever be proud and satisfied with who and what we are without any doubt or approval from others? My grandson demands a lot of attention, and he is only five years old. He always says, “Watch me Grammie. Look at what I can do.” Constant praise and reassurance that he is so great and loved by so many people builds his self-esteem.
The presidential campaign has gotten way out of line. Yes, this country definitely needs leadership, and the American people have the privilege to vote for the most qualified candidate. However, the process needs improvement, and the candidates should be presented in a respectful and honorable manner. Attacking, bashing, or criticism from the candidates, public, or media should be prohibited. We should be focused on the positive aspects and qualifications instead of who is the most flawed.
This day doesn’t have to be your birthday to make a wish. I want you to close your eyes right now and purposely think of something you want. To test this process, let’s start with something simple. I simply asked for a connection with a dear friend who I have known for many years. Now let go of the thought and forget about it. What I mean is don’t dwell on it or keep asking for it or wondering whether or not it’s going to come true. To speed up the process, stay positive and believe with all your heart that it will happen with absolutely no doubt. You can even act like it has happened or you’ve received it already and be very thankful. Continue with your normal, daily activities, but stay fully focused in the present moment throughout the days ahead. I am so excited for us right now, because this is part of what life is all about. Stay tuned my friends. I am wishing you a joy-filled life!
I have always believed perfectionism was a good thing and that we must strive to be perfect in everything we do. I have discovered that perfection is not attainable and that no one is perfect (except for our Creator). Life can be very frustrating for a perfectionist. I know, because I am a recovering perfectionist. Before, I wanted my life to be perfect, but now, my goal is to be happy. I continue to learn to be the best I can be and achieve what I can at the highest level possible (excellence) which is good enough for me! Psychologist Thomas Greenspon quoted the following differences between excellence and perfectionism in his book, “Moving Past Perfect:”
- “Excellence is risk. Perfection is fear.
- Excellence is effort. Perfection is anger and frustration.
- Excellence is openness to being wrong. Perfection is having to be right.
- Excellence is spontaneity. Perfection is control.
- Excellence is flow. Perfectionism is pressure.
- Excellence is confidence. Perfectionism is doubt.
- Excellence is a journey. Perfectionism is destination.
- Excellence is acceptance. Perfectionism is judgement.
- Excellence is encouraging. Perfection is criticizing.”
Here are a few more to consider that I’ve read elsewhere:
- Excellence is surrender. Perfectionism is consuming.
- Excellence is trust. Perfection is selfishness.
Dr. Greenspon also stated, “Perfectionism does not determine success — talent, energy, and commitment do. Perfectionists are successful despite their perfectionism — not because of it.”