The more you engage in the blame game, the more you lose in the game of life. Accusing someone else for a negative situation is a means of defending yourself and avoiding your own flaws and weaknesses. I know because I have done this in the past. I appreciate that those challenging experiences were actually meant for me so that I could learn and grow from them. We get caught up in wanting to be right and are quick to point fingers at others. We need to take responsibility for ourselves, but not by self-blame either. The next time a bad situation arises, ask yourself what can you take away from it, and of course, always be mindful of what you can do to better yourself.
Do you ever wish you could go back to a younger age in life? I’ve heard many people say they wish they were younger but only if they knew then what they know now. What do you know now? Have your learned from your past experiences? Experiences can sting us and teach us not to do that again or positive experiences can motivate us to keep doing what we’re doing. We learn more from our experiences than anything no matter if they’re good or bad. Experiences are our greatest teachers. Oscar Wilde wrote this great quote:
“Experience is the hardest kind of teacher. It gives you the test first and the lesson afterward.”
Many of us have multiple voices in our heads. Sometimes, those voices can be extremely convincing and believable. I want to caution you that there is really only one voice that is authentic and real that you should pay attention to. The voice that speaks to you softly with love and gentleness is the one to trust and believe. This voice works in conjunction with your intuition and will lift your spirit and encourage you to follow your heart. It will never be demanding or critical, cause fear or disorder, or bring up past issues. Choose to listen to that quiet, still, small voice. ❤
Here are some great quotes by American spiritual teacher, author, and lecturer, Marianne Williamson:
We think we need to understand people to know whether or not they’re lovable, but in fact until we love them we can never understand them.
The most important time in your life is the present moment. It’s what you are doing right here right now in this moment and every moment in life. The past is gone. You made memories and some were good but some were not-so-good. Cherish the good and erase the not-so-good. Don’t dwell on the past and what you should have done. There is nothing you can do about the past. I’ve heard so many people say I wish I knew back then what I know now. Okay now is here and your chance to shine. This is your moment. Three is no need to worry about what lies ahead of you and what ‘might’ happen. You will only be wasting valuable time. Yes, you can make plans and establish goals for the future, but you do that in the present moment. Focus on the here and the now. It’s where you need to be all the time.
Does a certain person or an animal bring you happiness? What about your home, car, or a material object? Are you happy with you? Are you happy when there’s no one or nothing else there? Being happy with yourself is the most important part of life. Why would you not be happy with youself? Are you “thinking” about the past and what you did or should’ve done? Are you worried about something (that hasn’t even happened yet)? Seriously, ask yourself if you make you happy. If your answer is no, or I don’t know, then you’ve got to dig deep and figure out why. No one knows you better than you. 🙂