Usually, an ultimatum starts out in a negative situation and ends in a negative situation.
Whenever you are aware of self-criticism, here are some positive affirmations to repeat that will bring you back to who you really are. The list is endless, but of course, I had to stop somewhere. At the beginning of each statement, always use these two significant words: “I am.” And remember, God made you perfect.
I have always believed perfectionism was a good thing and that we must strive to be perfect in everything we do. I have discovered that perfection is not attainable and that no one is perfect (except for our Creator). Life can be very frustrating for a perfectionist. I know, because I am a recovering perfectionist. Before, I wanted my life to be perfect, but now, my goal is to be happy. I continue to learn to be the best I can be and achieve what I can at the highest level possible (excellence) which is good enough for me! Psychologist Thomas Greenspon quoted the following differences between excellence and perfectionism in his book, “Moving Past Perfect:”
- “Excellence is risk. Perfection is fear.
- Excellence is effort. Perfection is anger and frustration.
- Excellence is openness to being wrong. Perfection is having to be right.
- Excellence is spontaneity. Perfection is control.
- Excellence is flow. Perfectionism is pressure.
- Excellence is confidence. Perfectionism is doubt.
- Excellence is a journey. Perfectionism is destination.
- Excellence is acceptance. Perfectionism is judgement.
- Excellence is encouraging. Perfection is criticizing.”
Here are a few more to consider that I’ve read elsewhere:
- Excellence is surrender. Perfectionism is consuming.
- Excellence is trust. Perfection is selfishness.
Dr. Greenspon also stated, “Perfectionism does not determine success — talent, energy, and commitment do. Perfectionists are successful despite their perfectionism — not because of it.”
Positive thinking is when we have faith and trust in the guiding hand of the universe. Faith is belief not based on proof. Confidence, self-assurance, and certainty is having faith. Faith is when we allow everything to unfold exactly the way it should. It’s not about everything turning out the way we want it to. It’s about accepting things no matter how it turns out. When there is absence of fear and doubt, and when we let go of resistance and control, we can learn to trust and have faith.
Before I started meditating, my life was chaotic. I was a very anxious and uptight person. My mind and thoughts would go a mile a minute. I would worry about things that were out of my control; I got upset so easily over silly stuff, I would forget where I put things, etc. Life was always a struggle. When I started meditating, my life slowly began to change. Amazing things started happening. My life is more balanced, my emotions are under control, and my days go smoother. Life seems easier now, and it is getting better and better every day in every way. There are no meds, drugs, alcohol, or anything to ingest. Meditation is just pure and natural being. Here is what meditation has done for me:
- The noise or mind chatter in my head has reduced significantly.
- I have a more positive attitude.
- I am a calmer and more relaxed person.
- I feel healthier and more energetic.
- I sleep better.
- I am happier.
- I am confident.
- I can surrender to what is happening in each moment.
- I am a more conscious being.
- I have more peace and clarity in my life.
Meditation is empowering, enlightening, and transformative. I challenge you to try it for just one week straight for at least 15-20 minutes each day. It takes a little discipline, but I know you can do it!
Below is a believable, positive affirmation/prayer recommended by guest speaker, Dr. Susan Shumsky, on Manifest Everything Now, Secrets to Effortless Manifestation. Repeat it daily with confidence and enthusiasm (feelings and emotions) to make it more effective.
I am in control.
I am one with God.
I am the only authority in my life.
I am divinely protected by the light of my being.
I close off my aura and body of light
To the lower astral levels of mind
And I open to the spiritual world.
Thank you God and so it is.
Does the ego help or hinder us? Some people believe the ego gives us that drive to do more and get more. Others believe it has no purpose and can be overpowering and destructive. When any particular part of us becomes off-balance, we could have problems. It is good to achieve our goals and get what we want in life but not to the point of doing harm to others and even ourselves. An inflated ego is unstable and fearful and likes to be in control at all times and the center of attention. It lives by comparisons and clashes with other big egos. The ego is easily recognizable in others, but it can also be subtle. When we give to a good cause, is it for praise and recognition or are we giving from our hearts? Is your ego controlling your life? When you let your heart and intuition guide you, you will be happy and still succeed in life.