Wow… is it just me or does it seem like there is so much negativity these days? People are ready to attack, lash out, and strike at any given moment. Little do they know that they are not only hurting themselves, but they are also creating more negative energy within their circle. These people will then be the first ones to complain about how things are not working right in their lives. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and beliefs, but be civil and have some class and respect when voicing them. Besides, if you listen close enough to what is being said without being so critical and close-minded, you might truly learn something. My circle of friends is getting smaller. I refuse to support negative behavior.
Here’s a great article I received in my email today from DailyOM.com. It is worth sharing.
Overachieving and Overreaching A Sign of Imbalance
Sometimes when we don’t feel good enough, we create imbalance by overachieving or needing to be the best at something.
Overachievers are people who have achieved but still feel the need to do more, creating an imbalance in their lives. People who exhibit this behavior may be trying to compensate for feelings of insecurity and doubts about their worth. They may be chasing unresolved issues from their past into the present, or they might not be looking at their lives as a whole, but judging themselves based only on one aspect of their being. If this is a word that we’ve heard used with respect to our choices and lifestyle, it is worth examining in order to balance our lives for a more rewarding experience.
If we find that we cannot allow ourselves to experience and enjoy the present moment, putting pleasure off into some distant future, it may be a sign that we are being driven to achieve more than is truly necessary. Pushing ourselves beyond the point of exhaustion, or to the exclusion of important people in our lives, robs us of true and meaningful joy. Once we make the connection to the eternal part of us, it can nourish us and allow our priorities to shift from chasing after an elusive feeling to being fully present in the moment so that we can live our lives in the now.
Sometimes we need to look to those we love and admire in order to realize what we value about life. We can take time to note what we like about others, and then turn the mirror to reflect the light of those same words and feelings toward ourselves. It can be quite a revelation to see ourselves in this nourishing light. When we can put the energy that we’ve been devoting to a phantom sense of achievement into the truly satisfying aspects of our lives, we can restore the balance between our inner and outer worlds and experience true joyful peace.
So… how many likes/views/comments did your post/video get? Who won the gold in the Olympics? Which team is the best in football/baseball/hockey? Who won the photo contest? Who is the most beautiful, talented woman in the world? I wonder what would happen if we took away all the needless competition? I believe in striving for excellence and doing the best we can, but we go to extremes for attention and approval from others. We should appreciate and take advantage of the unique, individual talents we possess, but why do we have to prove them to the world? When we do get the most votes and win a contest, are we any happier? It seems that our egos still need fed, and the bigger the ego, the more attention it demands. Can we ever be proud and satisfied with who and what we are without any doubt or approval from others? My grandson demands a lot of attention, and he is only five years old. He always says, “Watch me Grammie. Look at what I can do.” Constant praise and reassurance that he is so great and loved by so many people builds his self-esteem.
The presidential campaign has gotten way out of line. Yes, this country definitely needs leadership, and the American people have the privilege to vote for the most qualified candidate. However, the process needs improvement, and the candidates should be presented in a respectful and honorable manner. Attacking, bashing, or criticism from the candidates, public, or media should be prohibited. We should be focused on the positive aspects and qualifications instead of who is the most flawed.