Usually, an ultimatum starts out in a negative situation and ends in a negative situation.
There are three sides to every story, one side, the other side, and the truth. When situations arise, there may be innocent bystanders who actually witness the truth. The people causing the chaos who refuse to accept the truth and can never take blame are in danger of losing relationships, friendships, and possibly their jobs.
The more you engage in the blame game, the more you lose in life. Accusing someone else for a negative situation is a means of defending yourself and avoiding your own flaws and weaknesses. I know because I have done this in the past. I appreciate that those challenging experiences were actually meant for me so that I could learn and grow from them. We get caught up in wanting to be right all the time and are quick to point fingers at others. We need to take responsibility for ourselves or we could be in danger of losing friendships and possibly our jobs.
When you know in your heart that you’ve said something or done something to hurt someone unintentionally (or intentionally for that matter), you should apologize. Sometimes, we will even turn it around and place blame on the other person just so that we can justify our behavior. Don’t let your ego get in the way. Simply and sincerely say you’re sorry. Nine times out of ten, that’s all the other person really wants to hear.