No matter how much we hope and wish for and try to inspire a certain person to change, it’s just not going to happen until it’s their time (if it ever comes). I know it gets frustrating, but we have to let them be who they are. What we can do is focus on their positives, lead by example, and continue to improve ourselves. 🙂
So a dear friend of mine and co-worker was recently diagnosed with a huge brain tumor. She went into surgery on a Monday for prep work which took 3 hours, and on Tuesday she had an approximate 8-hour operation to remove the tumor. On Wednesday morning, she was up eating breakfast and sitting in a chair. How amazing is that?! The doctor said she did 110% better than expected! Besides the wonderfully skilled doctors who performed the surgery and the professional staff, I believe the power of prayer, positive energy, and faith added to the success of her outcome. Her Facebook wall was flooded with well wishes. All of her family, friends, and co-workers were praying for her. It seems when both individual and collective prayers are combined, they are very powerful. I believe when we all come together and provide positive support, we can truly impact each other’s lives.
The Danger of Repression
by Madisyn Taylor (Daily OM)
When negative thoughts arise it is best to address them rather than pushing them down where they will surface again.
For the last several years, there has been a lot of focus on the power of positive thinking. Many people have come to misinterpret this wisdom to mean that it is not okay to have a bad mood or a negative thought or feeling. This can lend a kind of superficiality to their relationship with life and relationships with other people. It can also lead them to feel that if a negative thought or feeling comes up, in themselves or someone else, they must immediately block it out. When they do this, they are engaging in the act of repressing a part of themselves that needs to seen, heard, and processed.
When we repress parts of ourselves, they don’t go away so much as they get buried deep within us, and they often come out when we least expect it. On the other hand, if we allow ourselves to be fully human, honoring all the thoughts, feelings, and moods that pass through us on a given day, we create a more conscious relationship with ourselves. Instead of blocking out thoughts and feelings that we label as negative, we can simply observe them and then let them go. They only get stuck when we react to them negatively, pushing them down and out of sight where they get lodged in our unconscious minds. A healthier solution might be to develop a practice of following any negative thought we may have with a positive thought. This works well because positive thoughts are many times more powerful than negative thoughts.
Rather than setting our minds up in such a way that we become fearful of the contents of our own consciousness, blocking out anything that is less than 100 percent positive, we might resolve to develop a friendlier attitude toward ourselves, trusting in our inherent goodness. When we recognize our true inner worth, a few dark clouds passing through our minds will not intimidate us. We will see them for what they are–small, dark figures passing through an expansive sky of well-being and truth.
So as our physical appearances change when we grow older in life, here’s my quick tip for wrinkles: ACCEPT them!!