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Feelings vs. Emotions

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I never knew there was a difference between feelings and emotions.  I always thought they were the same.  According to Philosopher, John Voris, there is a distinction.

“Learning the difference between feelings and emotions is crucial in understanding ourselves and initiating personal long-term change. Experts in many fields of behavior agree that our deep feelings come from an unchanging belief about life that holds our identity together, while our emotions are purely physically based, subject to change and are basically reactions to life events.

Your sense of life is an emotional form, in which your world experience finds value, your reason for existence and defines your relationship with other things that exists. Emotions are an abstract, metaphysical state of mind; they are essential impressions of the world, and your relationship with it. Emotions establish your attitude toward reality, and provides your drive for all of life’s pleasures. Additionally, these emotions are connected to your biological systems, and are designed to alert you of danger, or to draw you to something pleasurable. Finally, emotions are intense but temporary. To have them be any other way would be far too stressful on your body! The constant stress would eventually lead to some very serious physical, and mental ailments.

Feelings are products of emotions. But unlike short term, intense emotions, feelings are: low-key, stable and sustained over time.

Here are the differences in a nutshell:

Feelings:
Emotions:
Feelings tell us “how to live.”
Emotions tell us what we “like” and “dislike.”
Feelings state: ”There is a right and wrong way to be.
Emotions state: ”There are good and bad actions.”
Feelings state: “Your emotions matter.”
Emotions state: ”The external world matters.”
Feelings establish our long term attitude toward reality.
Emotions establish our initial attitude toward reality.
Feelings alert us to anticipated dangers and prepares us for action.
Emotion alert us to immediate dangers and prepares us for action
Feelings ensure long-term survival of self. (body and mind.)
Emotions ensure immediate survival of self. (body and mind.)
Feelings are Low-key but Sustainable.
Emotions are Intense but Temporary.
Happiness: is a feeling.
Joy: is an emotion.
Worry: is a feeling.
Fear: is an emotion.
Contentment: is a feeling.
Enthusiasm: is an emotion.
Bitterness: is a feeling.
Anger: is an emotion.
Love: is a feeling.
Lust: is an emotion.
Depression: is a feeling.
Sadness: is an emotion.

So, why should you be concerned with the difference between emotions and feelings anyway? Because the way you behave in this world, is the end result of your feelings and emotions.  Learning the difference can provide you with a better understanding of not only yourself, but of the people around you.”

For additional information, go to: Authentic Systems, Motivation Research & Development @ http://authentic-systems.com/difference-between-emotions-and-feelings/ and http://johnvoris.com/featured-articles/difference-between-emotions-and-feelings/.

Insecurity, Fear, and Worry

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Wow… the world is full of insecurity, fear, and worry as proved in one of Maxine’s Crabby Road cartoons.  Thought I would share this one with you today.  Below is what Maxine has learned over the year.  Enjoy!

As we progress through 2015, I want to thank you for your educational e-mails over the past year.  I am totally screwed up now and have little chance of recovery.

  • I can no longer open a bathroom door without using a paper towel, nor let the waitress put lemon slices in my ice water without worrying about the bacteria on the lemon peel.
  • I can’t sit down on a hotel bedspread because I can only imagine what has happened on it since it was last washed.
  • Eating a little snack sends me on a guilt trip because I can only imagine how many gallons of trans fats I have consumed over the years.
  • I can’t touch any woman’s handbag for fear she has placed it on the floor of a public toilet.
  • I must send my special thanks for the email about rat poo in the glue on envelopes because I now have to use a wet sponge with every envelope that needs sealing.
  • ALSO, now I have to scrub the top of every can I open for the same reason.
  • I can’t use cancer-causing deodorants even though I smell like a water buffalo on a hot day.
  • Thanks to you I have learned that my prayers only get answered if I forward an e-mail to seven of my friends and make a wish within five minutes.
  • Because of your concern, I no longer drink Coca Cola because it can remove toilet stains.
  • I no longer buy fuel without taking someone along to watch the car, so a serial killer doesn’t crawl in my back seat when I’m filling up
  • I no longer use Cling Wrap in the microwave because it causes seven different types of cancer.
  • And thanks for letting me know I can’t boil a cup of water in the microwave anymore because it will blow up in my face, disfiguring me for life.
  • I no longer go to the cinema because I could be pricked with a needle infected with AIDS when I sit down.
  • I no longer go to shopping centers because someone will drug me with a perfume sample and rob me.
  • And I no longer answer the phone because someone will ask me to dial a number for which I will get a  huge phone bill with calls to Jamaica, Uganda, Singapore and Uzbekistan.
  • And thanks to your great advice I can’t ever pick up a dime coin dropped in the car park because it was probably placed there by a sex molester waiting to grab me as I bend over.
  • I can’t do any gardening because I’m afraid I’ll get bitten by the Violin Spider and my hand will fall off.
  • If you don’t send this e-mail to at least 144,000 people in the next 70 minutes, a large dove with diarrhea will land on your head at 5:00 p.m. tomorrow afternoon, and the fleas  from 120 camels will infest your back, causing you to grow a hairy hump. I know this will occur because it actually happened to a friend of my next door neighbor’s ex mother-in-law’s second husband’s cousin’s best friend’s beautician!
  • Oh, and by the way…  a German scientist from Argentina, after a lengthy study, has discovered that people with insufficient brain activity read their e-mails with their hand on the mouse. Don’t bother taking it off now, it’s too late.

P.S.  I now keep my toothbrush in the living room, because I was told by e-mail that water splashes over 6 ft. out of the toilet.”

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“NOW YOU HAVE YOURSELF A VERY GOOD DAY!! “

 

What Are You Afraid of?

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Fear

Fear is the most unpleasant, distressing, painful feeling anyone can experience. Fear is caused by worry or thought of possible danger, evil, or a threat. Fears may come from personal history and/or can be learned from experiences.  Wikipedia provided the top 10 types in the U.S. by a 2005 Gallup poll and Bill Tancer’s published list in 2008:

“In a 2005 Gallup poll (U.S.A.), a national sample of adolescents between the ages of 13 and 17 were asked what they feared the most. The question was open-ended and participants were able to say whatever they wanted. The top ten fears were, in order: terrorist attacks, spiders, death, being a failure, war, criminal or gang violence, being alone, the future, and nuclear war.

In an estimate of what people fear the most, book author Bill Tancer analyzed the most frequent online queries that involved the phrase, “fear of…” following the assumption that people tend to seek information on the issues that concern them the most. His top ten list of fears published 2008 consisted of flying, heights, clowns, intimacy, death, rejection, people, snakes, failure, and driving.” 

By understanding and confronting your fears (also called exposure therapy), you can gain better control of your life. You have the courage to overcome your fears. Most importantly, have faith and trust in God and in yourself that everything will be all right.

Presence is a Present

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The most important time in your life is the present moment.  It’s what you are doing right here right now in this moment and every moment in life.  The past is gone.  You made memories and some were good but some were not-so-good.  Cherish the good and erase the not-so-good.  Don’t dwell on the past and what you should have done.  There is nothing you can do about the past.  I’ve heard so many people say I wish I knew back then what I know now.  Okay now is here and your chance to shine.  This is your moment.  Three is no need to worry about what lies ahead of you and what ‘might’ happen. You will only be wasting valuable time.  Yes, you can make plans and establish goals for the future, but you do that in the present moment.  Focus on the here and the now.  It’s where you need to be all the time.

What Makes You Happy?

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Does a certain person or an animal bring you happiness?  What about your home, car, or a material object?  Are you happy with you?  Are you happy when there’s no one or nothing else there?  Being happy with yourself is the most important part of life.  Why would you not be happy with youself?  Are you “thinking” about the past and what you did or should’ve done?  Are you worried about something (that hasn’t even happened yet)?  Seriously, ask yourself if you make you happy.  If your answer is no, or I don’t know, then you’ve got to dig deep and figure out why.  No one knows you better than you.  🙂