Sometimes our thoughts can be deceiving. When we pay attention to our thoughts at all times, we will know which ones to believe and which ones to ignore. Our thoughts create our future.
I never knew there was a difference between feelings and emotions. I always thought they were the same. According to Philosopher, John Voris, there is a distinction.
“Learning the difference between feelings and emotions is crucial in understanding ourselves and initiating personal long-term change. Experts in many fields of behavior agree that our deep feelings come from an unchanging belief about life that holds our identity together, while our emotions are purely physically based, subject to change and are basically reactions to life events.
Your sense of life is an emotional form, in which your world experience finds value, your reason for existence and defines your relationship with other things that exists. Emotions are an abstract, metaphysical state of mind; they are essential impressions of the world, and your relationship with it. Emotions establish your attitude toward reality, and provides your drive for all of life’s pleasures. Additionally, these emotions are connected to your biological systems, and are designed to alert you of danger, or to draw you to something pleasurable. Finally, emotions are intense but temporary. To have them be any other way would be far too stressful on your body! The constant stress would eventually lead to some very serious physical, and mental ailments.
Feelings are products of emotions. But unlike short term, intense emotions, feelings are: low-key, stable and sustained over time.
Here are the differences in a nutshell:
Feelings:
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Emotions:
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Feelings tell us “how to live.”
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Emotions tell us what we “like” and “dislike.”
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Feelings state: ”There is a right and wrong way to be.“
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Emotions state: ”There are good and bad actions.”
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Feelings state: “Your emotions matter.”
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Emotions state: ”The external world matters.”
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Feelings establish our long term attitude toward reality.
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Emotions establish our initial attitude toward reality.
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Feelings alert us to anticipated dangers and prepares us for action.
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Emotion alert us to immediate dangers and prepares us for action
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Feelings ensure long-term survival of self. (body and mind.)
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Emotions ensure immediate survival of self. (body and mind.)
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Feelings are Low-key but Sustainable.
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Emotions are Intense but Temporary.
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Happiness: is a feeling.
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Joy: is an emotion.
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Worry: is a feeling.
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Fear: is an emotion.
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Contentment: is a feeling.
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Enthusiasm: is an emotion.
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Bitterness: is a feeling.
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Anger: is an emotion.
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Love: is a feeling.
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Lust: is an emotion.
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Depression: is a feeling.
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Sadness: is an emotion.
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So, why should you be concerned with the difference between emotions and feelings anyway? Because the way you behave in this world, is the end result of your feelings and emotions. Learning the difference can provide you with a better understanding of not only yourself, but of the people around you.”
For additional information, go to: Authentic Systems, Motivation Research & Development @ http://authentic-systems.com/difference-between-emotions-and-feelings/ and http://johnvoris.com/featured-articles/difference-between-emotions-and-feelings/.
Wow… the world is full of insecurity, fear, and worry as proved in one of Maxine’s Crabby Road cartoons. Thought I would share this one with you today. Below is what Maxine has learned over the year. Enjoy!
“As we progress through 2015, I want to thank you for your educational e-mails over the past year. I am totally screwed up now and have little chance of recovery.
P.S. I now keep my toothbrush in the living room, because I was told by e-mail that water splashes over 6 ft. out of the toilet.”
“NOW YOU HAVE YOURSELF A VERY GOOD DAY!! “
Fear is the most unpleasant, distressing, painful feeling anyone can experience. Fear is caused by worry or thought of possible danger, evil, or a threat. Fears may come from personal history and/or can be learned from experiences. Wikipedia provided the top 10 types in the U.S. by a 2005 Gallup poll and Bill Tancer’s published list in 2008:
“In a 2005 Gallup poll (U.S.A.), a national sample of adolescents between the ages of 13 and 17 were asked what they feared the most. The question was open-ended and participants were able to say whatever they wanted. The top ten fears were, in order: terrorist attacks, spiders, death, being a failure, war, criminal or gang violence, being alone, the future, and nuclear war.
In an estimate of what people fear the most, book author Bill Tancer analyzed the most frequent online queries that involved the phrase, “fear of…” following the assumption that people tend to seek information on the issues that concern them the most. His top ten list of fears published 2008 consisted of flying, heights, clowns, intimacy, death, rejection, people, snakes, failure, and driving.”
By understanding and confronting your fears (also called exposure therapy), you can gain better control of your life. You have the courage to overcome your fears. Most importantly, have faith and trust in God and in yourself that everything will be all right.
The most important time in your life is the present moment. It’s what you are doing right here right now in this moment and every moment in life. The past is gone. You made memories and some were good but some were not-so-good. Cherish the good and erase the not-so-good. Don’t dwell on the past and what you should have done. There is nothing you can do about the past. I’ve heard so many people say I wish I knew back then what I know now. Okay now is here and your chance to shine. This is your moment. Three is no need to worry about what lies ahead of you and what ‘might’ happen. You will only be wasting valuable time. Yes, you can make plans and establish goals for the future, but you do that in the present moment. Focus on the here and the now. It’s where you need to be all the time.
Does a certain person or an animal bring you happiness? What about your home, car, or a material object? Are you happy with you? Are you happy when there’s no one or nothing else there? Being happy with yourself is the most important part of life. Why would you not be happy with youself? Are you “thinking” about the past and what you did or should’ve done? Are you worried about something (that hasn’t even happened yet)? Seriously, ask yourself if you make you happy. If your answer is no, or I don’t know, then you’ve got to dig deep and figure out why. No one knows you better than you. 🙂