Think about it… when these things are stripped away from your identity: upbringing, beliefs, thoughts, fears, character, medication, education, knowledge, skills, abilities, job, make-up, hair coloring, implants, tattoos, piercings, contacts, glasses, clothing, jewelry, accessories, possessions, etc., what is remaining? THE REAL YOU!
I love this quote from Canadian author, Danielle LaPorte: “Can you remember who you were before the world told you who you should be?”
The Danger of Repression
by Madisyn Taylor (Daily OM)
When negative thoughts arise it is best to address them rather than pushing them down where they will surface again.
For the last several years, there has been a lot of focus on the power of positive thinking. Many people have come to misinterpret this wisdom to mean that it is not okay to have a bad mood or a negative thought or feeling. This can lend a kind of superficiality to their relationship with life and relationships with other people. It can also lead them to feel that if a negative thought or feeling comes up, in themselves or someone else, they must immediately block it out. When they do this, they are engaging in the act of repressing a part of themselves that needs to seen, heard, and processed.
When we repress parts of ourselves, they don’t go away so much as they get buried deep within us, and they often come out when we least expect it. On the other hand, if we allow ourselves to be fully human, honoring all the thoughts, feelings, and moods that pass through us on a given day, we create a more conscious relationship with ourselves. Instead of blocking out thoughts and feelings that we label as negative, we can simply observe them and then let them go. They only get stuck when we react to them negatively, pushing them down and out of sight where they get lodged in our unconscious minds. A healthier solution might be to develop a practice of following any negative thought we may have with a positive thought. This works well because positive thoughts are many times more powerful than negative thoughts.
Rather than setting our minds up in such a way that we become fearful of the contents of our own consciousness, blocking out anything that is less than 100 percent positive, we might resolve to develop a friendlier attitude toward ourselves, trusting in our inherent goodness. When we recognize our true inner worth, a few dark clouds passing through our minds will not intimidate us. We will see them for what they are–small, dark figures passing through an expansive sky of well-being and truth.
So I asked myself… have I really changed? Can people actually change? Is this possible? I know when people hit the ground hard enough, they are forced to change, but do they eventually go back to being their same, old selves? I have been working on self-improvement for several years, but it’s hard for me to tell if I am truly changing. I still find myself having recurring thoughts and habits. At least I am aware of them, and I do feel a little stronger and less of a people pleaser. I guess after all those years of having the same thoughts and habits, that they are so ingrained in me, and that change is a gradual process. It’s sort of like an etched stone when the engraving eventually wears off. I am practicing patience, because I am determined to break free from the grip of the mind.
Are you mentally abusing yourself? The most important thing you can do in life is recondition your mind. Our thoughts being so close to us and the impact and constant pressure from the outside world make it very difficult to alter the process. However, it has to be done in order to live a more peaceful lifestyle. Being aware of your thoughts and entertaining only the positive ones are important parts of the process. When you practice mental discipline and learn to stand back and observe your thoughts, you are making progress in creating a more meaningful life.