We have all unintentionally hurt someone who put their trust in us. In order to restore the relationship, you have to apologize to the other person. True leaders acknowledge or “own” their mistakes. Below are key components for making an effective, sincere apology:
- Respectfully admit you messed up.
- Take responsibility for your behavior or actions.
- Express remorse and say you are truly sorry.
- Ask what you can do (or offer) to make things right.
- Promise that it will not happen again.
- Make amends.
What NOT to do:
- Make excuses or rationalize your behavior.
- Downplay the situation by saying for example, “It was just a joke!”
- Turn it around and start blaming/criticizing the victim.
- Change the subject.
Keeping a balanced lifestyle is important for well-being and happiness. Do your job, but take time for other activities or hobbies you enjoy doing. Exercise regularly but get proper rest. Eat healthy and then every once in a while indulge in a favorite dessert. Love yourself but don’t be narcissistic. Stay strong but be humble. Be confident but not arrogant. Be kind and willing to help others, but avoid being taken advantage of. Keep your emotions under control. When we experience loss, it is normal and natural to grieve as part of the healing process.
The essence of who you are is your spirit, soul, inner being, or life-force. Spirituality is when you experience a direct connection of your inner most being with the divine power of the universe.
Organized religion is when you follow someone else’s collection of beliefs, customs, and/or rituals.
You can practice spirituality without belonging to a specific religion; you can also be religious but not spiritual; and lastly, you can certainly practice spirituality while belonging to an organized religion. I recommend doing whatever keeps you aligned with the divine power and on the right path in life.