Think about it… when these things are stripped away from your identity: upbringing, beliefs, thoughts, fears, character, medication, education, knowledge, skills, abilities, job, make-up, hair coloring, implants, tattoos, piercings, contacts, glasses, clothing, jewelry, accessories, possessions, etc., what is remaining? THE REAL YOU!
I love this quote from Canadian author, Danielle LaPorte: “Can you remember who you were before the world told you who you should be?”
I look for signs in life that indicate whether or not I am on the right track. I enjoy reading the messages from fortune cookies. Below is one that I recently got in my cookie:
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there was a ‘happily ever after’ ending to all stories? If you are in a relationship or looking for a partner, I have to tell you, a ‘happily ever after’ ending is achievable. Typically, this type of ending involves a relationship, but even if you are satisfied being single, my message applies to you too. First, let me ask you this, do you want a happy ending to your story? If you answered yes, you can truly make it happen. You may have to do a little bit of work, but it will be worth every second of it.
If you are already in a relationship, take your partner completely out of the equation, so there is no blaming, criticizing, accusing, etc. Do you have a clear perception of yourself? There are probably qualities that you like (strengths), but there are indeed some that need improvement (weaknesses), and perhaps you’re not even aware of them. Start by assessing your entire self: your character, thoughts, behavior, emotions, fears, habits, doubts, health, appearance, etc. It’s all part of the package. You have to become who you want to attract in your life. For example, be a good listener if you want people to pay attention to your opinions and beliefs; be more forgiving if you want others to forgive you; show consideration and appreciation toward others if you are looking for respect, etc. Not only will you be helping yourself, but you will also bring out the best in your partner. It’s a win/win situation. Maintaining balance, self-awareness, and being present are critical in the process for manifesting a ‘happily ever after’ ending.
I have been evaluating myself for years, and to this day, I still ask myself how can I improve? I am going to have a fairytale ending to my story with my prince charming!