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Sympathy vs. Empathy vs. Compassion

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So I googled sympathy vs. empathy vs. compassion to learn the differences of these three words, and the first site that came up was operationmeditation.com.  Below is what was provided:

Sympathy – feeling sorry for another’s hurt

Sympathy is feeling sorry for another’s hurt or pain. There is some emotional distance with sympathy – you are not experiencing the pain for yourself, rather you are saying “Isn’t it sad that this person is having a bad time”. Sometimes sympathy can tip into pity, and that is where some caution is needed. Pity is an emotion that tends to dehumanize and belittle. Most people who have a disability or other challenges will despise being ‘pitied’ as pity strips away the rich reality of their human experience and leaves just the difficulty or disability on view. For a deeper relationship and understanding, empathy is needed.

Empathy – walking in another’s shoes

Empathy takes things a little deeper – it is the ability to experience for yourself some of the pain that the other person may be experiencing. It is an acknowledgement of our shared experience as humans and recognition that we all feel grief and loss and pain and fear. You do not need to have experienced exactly the same events as the person who is suffering but you do need to have the ability to really imagine how they must be feeling in their situation. Empathy is a vicarious experience – if your friend is feeling afraid, you too will experience a feeling of fear in your body; if they are sad, you too will feel sorrow. Feeling empathy is allowing yourself to become tuned into another person’s emotional experience. It takes courage to do this but if you have ever experienced real empathy from another when you have been hurting, you will know what a gift it can be.

Compassion – love in action

If empathy is the ability to really experience some of the feelings of pain that another person is feeling, then compassion is to translate that feeling into action. You understand that your friend is feeling worried and stressed with their aging relative in hospital, so you cook the family some dinners and take their children for an afternoon. True compassion reaches out to all people, no matter whether they are your friends or not, and even to all living creatures. It is the ability and willingness to stand alongside someone and to put their needs before your own. Living a compassionate life can be learned – it is not just something that some ‘extra-good’ people are born with. Changing habits takes persistence and practice but it is achievable through the right methods. Many of the worlds’ wisest people have stated that giving to others in life is the source of the greatest contentment and life satisfaction, so there are many personal benefits to be gained as well.

Create the Perfect Love

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When we want to attract the right people into our lives, we first have to be right with ourselves. How can we be better so that we can have better relationships? If you’re in a relationship that needs repaired, figure out what you can do to make things right. Instead of expecting the other person to change, we have to learn to change ourselves. Become more loving, accepting, and supportive of ourselves, and then we can provide the same in our relationships. love4

The Universe

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The Universe

When you are feeling good and are having a nice day, you are attracting positive energy.  When you are angry or in a bad mood, you will get more negativity.  You can simply change your day by changing your attitude.  The key to controlling your life is being aware of your thoughts and the words you are using.  Something very important to remember is the universe does not recognize words such as don’t, not, never, no, etc., so these words get dropped from the meaning.  When you think or say, “I don’t want to be sad,” the universe translates this into: “I want to be sad.” Instead say, “I want to be happy.”  The universe is ready and waiting to give you what you want.  So who or what are you attracting right now?

Thankfulness Challenge

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I am all about being grateful.  Recently, I was challenged by a dear friend, Beverly Austin, for five days to list five things I am thankful for.  Here is my list of 25 (in no specific order) to fulfill this challenge.  Of course, my list is endless, because every day there is always something new to be grateful for.

  1. I am very grateful to know you and all the people who have crossed my path.
  2. I am very grateful for family, especially my parents, siblings, children, niece, and grandson.
  3. I am very grateful for my darling little Oscar and all the animals in this world.
  4. I am very grateful for nature.
  5. I am very grateful for my job.
  6. I am very grateful for my home.
  7. I am very grateful for technology.
  8. I am very grateful for all inspirational leaders.
  9. I am very grateful for music.
  10. I am very grateful for the sun, the moon, and the stars.
  11. I am very grateful to have the desire to help people.
  12. I am very grateful for my artistic abilities.
  13. I am very grateful for my intuition.
  14. I am very grateful for guidance from a higher divine power.
  15. I am very grateful for the universe.
  16. I am very grateful for little nudges to wake me up.
  17. I am very grateful to be conscious and in the present moment.
  18. I am very grateful for my accomplishments.
  19. I am very grateful for change.
  20. I am very grateful for encouragement from other people.
  21. I am very grateful for good health.
  22. I am very grateful for Oprah Winfrey.  She has truly inspired me.
  23. I am very grateful for vacations, the beach, the ocean, the sand, and the breeze.
  24. I am very grateful for love, patience, and compassion.
  25. I am very grateful for time for myself.

Promoting Healthy Habits

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Promoting Healthy Habits

We all have habits; some good and some unhealthy.  Habits can be hard to break, but you can definitely change them. First, you have to recognize that it’s a bad habit.  This is key to changing it.  Second, you’ve got to take action.  You can’t just sit there and think about it or talk about it.  You’ve got to do something to correct it!  You have the power and strength within you to achieve what you desire.  So get started and get going!  Change those bad habits!  Here’s my healthy eating photo for today.

Changing Others

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We are constantly attracting people into our lives.  Not all people are meant to stay, especially if you are experiencing change in your life.  Those people may no longer be at the same place as where you are.  We cannot expect people to be who we want them to be.  We will become very frustrated with the relationship.  They have to want to change for themselves.  Some people will change and some will not.  Either way, we must accept them for who they are.

Why There is Fear

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We have all experienced fear.  Many people don’t like change because of fear of the unknown. Fear of death is a very deep common fear.  When we have lack of faith, we experience fear.  Fear is the result of being separated or disconnected from the source of our creation.  Once we establish that connection again, we feel more secure and at peace.  The solution to overcoming fear is to stay connected!  I hope you have a calm, peaceful day.