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Compassion

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Everyone is dealing with difficulties in their lives, so the least we can do is show some compassion toward others. We must override the ego and be aware of our immediate thoughts about that person or their situation. It doesn’t take much to uplift someone when you know they are in need of encouragement. Sending an inspirational card or message, attending a funeral, visiting someone in the hospital or nursing home are all signs of compassion. When you can actually relate to how the other person is feeling and what they are experiencing, you tend to have more compassion and empathy toward other people. If you want to be a more compassionate person, start with self-compassion and self-love. Rather than judging yourself harshly, practice self-compassion to change any behavior you want to change. Loving kindness and compassion toward yourself and others go a long way.

The Dalai Lama stated, “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.”

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Simple Truths

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Below are five Yogic Sutras of the Aquarian Age given to us by Yogi Bhajan. A sutra is a ‘knot.’ It is a complex spiritual concept reduced to one sentence and later expanded upon by a spiritual teacher. Sutras allowed sacred teachings to be protected from harm (by appearing harmless to conquerors) and were brief enough to be remembered by students in ancient times.”

1. Recognize that the other person is you.

We can only truly see ourselves reflected in another person. If we admire qualities in another, we are only seeing those same qualities in ourselves. These qualities may not yet be developed or expressed. On the flip side, if we see qualities that we dislike in another—again, we are only seeing ourselves—perhaps a disowned part called the shadow.

The more we identify with our ego, the more judgmental we will be toward others and the more we will project our own personality traits onto others.  We are being called to take full responsibility for our experiences and to live the Truth—we are ALL ONE.

Reflection: Just for one day, own everything (good and bad) that you see in another person.

2. When the time is on you, start, and the pressure will be off.

The way that we perceive time is an illusion. There is no past and no future—only the present—Now. Time is only consciousness moving.

This expansion of consciousness is pressurizing you to change, grow, and evolve on your soul’s journey. It is foolish to hold back this process with procrastination. In truth, we all know within our deepest selves what changes need to be made.

Worry and stress about ‘what if’ scenarios will only lead to more suffering and paralysis. This is the mind’s play and you’ll end up like a dog chasing its tail.

Reflection: The Universe is change. Change is constant so why not embrace it? It is time for you to make changes in your life. Take the first step, no matter how small, and you will feel the pressure immediately start to ease up. This will give you the momentum to keep changing and growing.

3. Vibrate the Cosmos; the Cosmos shall clear the path.

All of the Universe is a vibration of energy. We are either vibrating in harmony or disharmony with the Universe. We vibrate frequency through our thoughts, words, actions, emotions, and feelings. What we put out to the Universe we receive back, much like a boom-a-rang.

When life seems to be continually placing blocks along your path and nothing seems to be moving, it may be showing that you are not vibrating in harmony with the Universe. To vibrate with the Universe is to vibrate the higher frequencies of love, compassion, and kindness.

One of the best ways to be in the flow of the Cosmos is through yoga, meditation, and chanting mantra—sacred sounds that attune you to the Universe.

Reflection: Are you in the creative flow of the Universe today? Do you feel that something isn’t moving in your life? Shift the frequency of your thoughts to be more aligned with the Universe. Bring in the higher frequency energy and then watch your path clear!

4. There is a way through every block.

It is guaranteed that challenges come into your life for your spiritual growth and healing. No one is exempt! In fact, the day you have no challenges is the day you are dead. Every challenge, no matter how great or small, has a solution or a way through. This solution, however, doesn’t come from the rational or logical mind. A pros and cons list will not work.

The solution will come bubbling to the surface through your intuition. How do you know the difference between intuition and thoughts from the mind? Intuition is neutral in energy; there is no judgment, no ‘shoulds,’ and no fear. Intuition is the creative energy. It is like a small soft voice in your ear.

Reflection: As you face a challenge in your life, take a moment and remember that there is a way through every block. Breathe long and deep for a few minutes and wait for the answer to come. Start acting from your intuition and trust that you will be guided to the next best step for you!

5. Understand through compassion or you will misunderstand the times.

We are being called to move out of the motto, “What’s in it for me?” and  into this motto, “How can my actions benefit the whole?”

Compassion is learning and acting from the heart. If we choose to go into judgment or look away from the suffering of our fellow human beings, we are misunderstanding the times. It is only the ego and mind that keep us separate from one another and in denial of the truth.

We are ONE human tribe on planet Earth, all of us brothers and sisters connected by ONE spirit. We are here on this planet to serve, uplift and help one another.

Reflection: Keep your heart open today as you approach people and challenges. Resist the urge to go into the mind and ego to become separate. Remember to look into the eyes of others to see the same light that lives in us all.

Sympathy vs. Empathy vs. Compassion

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So I googled sympathy vs. empathy vs. compassion to learn the differences of these three words, and the first site that came up was operationmeditation.com.  Below is what was provided:

Sympathy – feeling sorry for another’s hurt

Sympathy is feeling sorry for another’s hurt or pain. There is some emotional distance with sympathy – you are not experiencing the pain for yourself, rather you are saying “Isn’t it sad that this person is having a bad time”. Sometimes sympathy can tip into pity, and that is where some caution is needed. Pity is an emotion that tends to dehumanize and belittle. Most people who have a disability or other challenges will despise being ‘pitied’ as pity strips away the rich reality of their human experience and leaves just the difficulty or disability on view. For a deeper relationship and understanding, empathy is needed.

Empathy – walking in another’s shoes

Empathy takes things a little deeper – it is the ability to experience for yourself some of the pain that the other person may be experiencing. It is an acknowledgement of our shared experience as humans and recognition that we all feel grief and loss and pain and fear. You do not need to have experienced exactly the same events as the person who is suffering but you do need to have the ability to really imagine how they must be feeling in their situation. Empathy is a vicarious experience – if your friend is feeling afraid, you too will experience a feeling of fear in your body; if they are sad, you too will feel sorrow. Feeling empathy is allowing yourself to become tuned into another person’s emotional experience. It takes courage to do this but if you have ever experienced real empathy from another when you have been hurting, you will know what a gift it can be.

Compassion – love in action

If empathy is the ability to really experience some of the feelings of pain that another person is feeling, then compassion is to translate that feeling into action. You understand that your friend is feeling worried and stressed with their aging relative in hospital, so you cook the family some dinners and take their children for an afternoon. True compassion reaches out to all people, no matter whether they are your friends or not, and even to all living creatures. It is the ability and willingness to stand alongside someone and to put their needs before your own. Living a compassionate life can be learned – it is not just something that some ‘extra-good’ people are born with. Changing habits takes persistence and practice but it is achievable through the right methods. Many of the worlds’ wisest people have stated that giving to others in life is the source of the greatest contentment and life satisfaction, so there are many personal benefits to be gained as well.

Life’s Lessons

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Just when things are moving along fine and then BAM something bad happens (at least we think so at the time).  It has happened to all of us.  We immediately ask why.  Why did this happen, what am I doing wrong, why can’t things work out, etc.  It’s especially hard on parents when it happens to their children.  Some parents would rather take the fall than to see their children suffer.  God wants us to grow in grace.  God wants us all to learn to be strong and responsible but yet loving and compassionate.  How do we learn to be good if there isn’t bad?  How would we know about light if there wasn’t dark?  We have to learn to accept things as they are, because it’s all part of life’s lessons.  Keep the faith no matter what.

The Most Valuable Gift

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The most valuable gift you can give someone is your time.  Spend a small amount of your time today by giving someone your undivided attention.  It could be an elderly person, co-worker, friend, relative, etc.  Parents please take the time from your hectic schedule and pay attention to your children.  They would much rather spend time with you than any material object.  You may even want to devote some time to yourself or spend time with your pet.  This is a great act of caring and compassion.

Thankfulness Challenge

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I am all about being grateful.  Recently, I was challenged by a dear friend, Beverly Austin, for five days to list five things I am thankful for.  Here is my list of 25 (in no specific order) to fulfill this challenge.  Of course, my list is endless, because every day there is always something new to be grateful for.

  1. I am very grateful to know you and all the people who have crossed my path.
  2. I am very grateful for family, especially my parents, siblings, children, niece, and grandson.
  3. I am very grateful for my darling little Oscar and all the animals in this world.
  4. I am very grateful for nature.
  5. I am very grateful for my job.
  6. I am very grateful for my home.
  7. I am very grateful for technology.
  8. I am very grateful for all inspirational leaders.
  9. I am very grateful for music.
  10. I am very grateful for the sun, the moon, and the stars.
  11. I am very grateful to have the desire to help people.
  12. I am very grateful for my artistic abilities.
  13. I am very grateful for my intuition.
  14. I am very grateful for guidance from a higher divine power.
  15. I am very grateful for the universe.
  16. I am very grateful for little nudges to wake me up.
  17. I am very grateful to be conscious and in the present moment.
  18. I am very grateful for my accomplishments.
  19. I am very grateful for change.
  20. I am very grateful for encouragement from other people.
  21. I am very grateful for good health.
  22. I am very grateful for Oprah Winfrey.  She has truly inspired me.
  23. I am very grateful for vacations, the beach, the ocean, the sand, and the breeze.
  24. I am very grateful for love, patience, and compassion.
  25. I am very grateful for time for myself.