Here’s a great article I received in my email today from DailyOM.com. It is worth sharing.
Overachieving and Overreaching A Sign of Imbalance
by Madisyn Taylor
Sometimes when we don’t feel good enough, we create imbalance by overachieving or needing to be the best at something.
Overachievers are people who have achieved but still feel the need to do more, creating an imbalance in their lives. People who exhibit this behavior may be trying to compensate for feelings of insecurity and doubts about their worth. They may be chasing unresolved issues from their past into the present, or they might not be looking at their lives as a whole, but judging themselves based only on one aspect of their being. If this is a word that we’ve heard used with respect to our choices and lifestyle, it is worth examining in order to balance our lives for a more rewarding experience.
If we find that we cannot allow ourselves to experience and enjoy the present moment, putting pleasure off into some distant future, it may be a sign that we are being driven to achieve more than is truly necessary. Pushing ourselves beyond the point of exhaustion, or to the exclusion of important people in our lives, robs us of true and meaningful joy. Once we make the connection to the eternal part of us, it can nourish us and allow our priorities to shift from chasing after an elusive feeling to being fully present in the moment so that we can live our lives in the now.
Sometimes we need to look to those we love and admire in order to realize what we value about life. We can take time to note what we like about others, and then turn the mirror to reflect the light of those same words and feelings toward ourselves. It can be quite a revelation to see ourselves in this nourishing light. When we can put the energy that we’ve been devoting to a phantom sense of achievement into the truly satisfying aspects of our lives, we can restore the balance between our inner and outer worlds and experience true joyful peace.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there was a ‘happily ever after’ ending to all stories? If you are in a relationship or looking for a partner, I have to tell you, a ‘happily ever after’ ending is achievable. Typically, this type of ending involves a relationship, but even if you are satisfied being single, my message applies to you too. First, let me ask you this, do you want a happy ending to your story? If you answered yes, you can truly make it happen. You may have to do a little bit of work, but it will be worth every second of it.
If you are already in a relationship, take your partner completely out of the equation, so there is no blaming, criticizing, accusing, etc. Do you have a clear perception of yourself? There are probably qualities that you like (strengths), but there are indeed some that need improvement (weaknesses), and perhaps you’re not even aware of them. Start by assessing your entire self: your character, thoughts, behavior, emotions, fears, habits, doubts, health, appearance, etc. It’s all part of the package. You have to become who you want to attract in your life. For example, be a good listener if you want people to pay attention to your opinions and beliefs; be more forgiving if you want others to forgive you; show consideration and appreciation toward others if you are looking for respect, etc. Not only will you be helping yourself, but you will also bring out the best in your partner. It’s a win/win situation. Maintaining balance, self-awareness, and being present are critical in the process for manifesting a ‘happily ever after’ ending.
I have been evaluating myself for years, and to this day, I still ask myself how can I improve? I am going to have a fairytale ending to my story with my prince charming!
Why do people take advantage of a good thing? Why do people fail to appreciate others for who they are and what they do for them? They’re always wanting more and more and end up ruining relationships. They push their limit and then get angry when others finally stand up to them. Balance is what it takes for both sides. Please… show respect and gratitude when someone is helping you out, and do not ‘expect’ it from him or her. For the other person, always be kind and giving but know when to stop before people take you for granted.
To achieve perfect life balance, your inner parts must work well together and stay in sync:
your spirit with your heart,
your heart with your mind,
your mind with your brain,
your brain with your body.
Keeping a balanced lifestyle is important for well-being and happiness. Do your job, but take time for other activities or hobbies you enjoy doing. Exercise regularly but get proper rest. Eat healthy and then every once in a while indulge in a favorite dessert. Love yourself but don’t be narcissistic. Stay strong but be humble. Be confident but not arrogant. Be kind and willing to help others, but avoid being taken advantage of. Keep your emotions under control. When we experience loss, it is normal and natural to grieve as part of the healing process.