Everyone experiences the pain of powerlessness (or fear). This is the best explanation I have heard about addiction. Anyone suffering from any form of addiction should watch this 5-minute video by Gary Zukav.
Just when things are moving along fine and then BAM something bad happens (at least we think so at the time). It has happened to all of us. We immediately ask why. Why did this happen, what am I doing wrong, why can’t things work out, etc. It’s especially hard on parents when it happens to their children. Some parents would rather take the fall than to see their children suffer. God wants us to grow in grace. God wants us all to learn to be strong and responsible but yet loving and compassionate. How do we learn to be good if there isn’t bad? How would we know about light if there wasn’t dark? We have to learn to accept things as they are, because it’s all part of life’s lessons. Keep the faith no matter what.