Dec9
Category Archives: Behavior
Dec5
Watch Your Words
Sep9
What Do You Do?
A question for you: Do you save your marriage or do you save your soul?
Sep8
The Grip
So I asked myself… have I really changed? Can people actually change? Is this possible? I know when people hit the ground hard enough, they are forced to change, but do they eventually go back to being their same, old selves? I have been working on self-improvement for several years, but it’s hard for me to tell if I am truly changing. I still find myself having recurring thoughts and habits. At least I am aware of them, and I do feel a little stronger and less of a people pleaser. I guess after all those years of having the same thoughts and habits, that they are so ingrained in me, and that change is a gradual process. It’s sort of like an etched stone when the engraving eventually wears off. I am practicing patience, because I am determined to break free from the grip of the mind.
Aug16
Set Boundaries
Wow… is it just me or does it seem like there is so much negativity these days? People are ready to attack, lash out, and strike at any given moment. Little do they know that they are not only hurting themselves, but they are also creating more negative energy within their circle. These people will then be the first ones to complain about how things are not working right in their lives. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and beliefs, but be civil and have some class and respect when voicing them. Besides, if you listen close enough to what is being said without being so critical and close-minded, you might truly learn something. My circle of friends is getting smaller. I refuse to support negative behavior.
Aug15
Do Not Dwell on Them
You’re going to get them no matter what. Here’s how you deal with them…
Aug12
Where There’s a Will There’s a Way
Aug12
Overachievers
Here’s a great article I received in my email today from DailyOM.com. It is worth sharing.
Overachieving and Overreaching A Sign of Imbalance
Sometimes when we don’t feel good enough, we create imbalance by overachieving or needing to be the best at something.
Overachievers are people who have achieved but still feel the need to do more, creating an imbalance in their lives. People who exhibit this behavior may be trying to compensate for feelings of insecurity and doubts about their worth. They may be chasing unresolved issues from their past into the present, or they might not be looking at their lives as a whole, but judging themselves based only on one aspect of their being. If this is a word that we’ve heard used with respect to our choices and lifestyle, it is worth examining in order to balance our lives for a more rewarding experience.
If we find that we cannot allow ourselves to experience and enjoy the present moment, putting pleasure off into some distant future, it may be a sign that we are being driven to achieve more than is truly necessary. Pushing ourselves beyond the point of exhaustion, or to the exclusion of important people in our lives, robs us of true and meaningful joy. Once we make the connection to the eternal part of us, it can nourish us and allow our priorities to shift from chasing after an elusive feeling to being fully present in the moment so that we can live our lives in the now.
Sometimes we need to look to those we love and admire in order to realize what we value about life. We can take time to note what we like about others, and then turn the mirror to reflect the light of those same words and feelings toward ourselves. It can be quite a revelation to see ourselves in this nourishing light. When we can put the energy that we’ve been devoting to a phantom sense of achievement into the truly satisfying aspects of our lives, we can restore the balance between our inner and outer worlds and experience true joyful peace.
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