My definition of an honorable person is someone who is righteous, trustworthy, compassionate, and shows respect for others. A person of honor is fair and forgiving, takes responsibility for his/her own actions, keeps promises, and maintains composure during difficult situations. A person who earns an honest living and is willing to help others is being honorable. When these values are practiced, much respect from others will be gained, and there will be a spiritual peaceful feeling within.
We have all unintentionally hurt someone who put their trust in us. In order to restore the relationship, you have to apologize to the other person. True leaders acknowledge or “own” their mistakes. Below are key components for making an effective, sincere apology:
- Respectfully admit you messed up.
- Take responsibility for your behavior or actions.
- Express remorse and say you are truly sorry.
- Ask what you can do (or offer) to make things right.
- Promise that it will not happen again.
- Make amends.
What NOT to do:
- Make excuses or rationalize your behavior.
- Downplay the situation by saying for example, “It was just a joke!”
- Turn it around and start blaming/criticizing the victim.
- Change the subject.
Here is one of my favorite quotes: “Action speaks louder than words.” Some people like to sit around all day long and boast about what they are going to do and even provide the details. We can talk a big talk, but when it comes down to it, do you actually accomplish what you say you are going to do?
If you want people to trust you, then when you make a commitment to someone, you need to make every effort to fulfill that promise. Before making that commitment, you need to be sure you really want to do it and if it is possible. It is not the thought that counts… it is the action that proves your loyalty.