When all else fails, and you truly want to help yourself, reconnect with God (or whatever you call the entity or source from which you were created).  Ask for help.  You will receive the power, strength, and love from the source to overcome the obstacles you are currently facing in life.  Don’t be stubborn, because it is impossible to do it alone.  When you reconnect with the source and have the fundamental belief that you really can do this, anything is possible.